When parents constantly interact with their children, they may lack enough time with friends, family and partners. In a survey of parents by Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center, 66% said parenting sometimes or frequently made them feel lonely. Loneliness can worsen sadness and stress and is associated with an increased risk of health issues, including depression and heart disease. Understanding parental loneliness and how to combat it is crucial for overall wellbeing.
Why are parents lonely?
Parental loneliness can stem from several factors, including:
Burnout. Caring for children can be rewarding but also limits time and energy spent with adult loved ones. Isolation associated with parental responsibilities goes hand in hand with loneliness. Newborns require constant attention, and even as children grow and gain independence, parents must assist with homework, coordinate activities and transportation and much more.
Lack of help. Even in committed relationships, there may be an imbalance in parenting that leaves one parent as the primary caretaker. Insufficient support from family, friends or community can exacerbate isolation and loneliness.
Mental health concerns and insecurity. Mental health issues such as postpartum depression and anxiety are common among new parents. Parenthood is often portrayed as a joyful and fulfilling experience in the media or by others on social media. Seeing what is assumed to be perfect parenting can trigger insecurity and loneliness.
Difficulty connecting with others. Parenting can radically change someone's life and identity. Parents might struggle to find a balance between their parental role and their individuality. Maintaining meaningful connections with people who are not parents may be challenging, and busy parents may have little energy to seek new friendships.
Ways to combat loneliness
Acknowledge your feelings. Recognize that loneliness, sadness, stress and anxiety are incredibly common for parents, and it is OK to have these emotions. The feelings you have are temporary, and you can overcome them.
Disclose your feelings with trusted loved ones. Confiding with your friends, family and partner can help you feel more understood. You may find friends or relatives who have also struggled while parenting who are willing to assist you. Expressing your feelings can provide relief and comfort. Remember to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Set aside time for meaningful conversations and activities to strengthen bonds and reduce loneliness.
Enlist and accept help. While it may be challenging to reach out, building a support network is crucial. Having a loved one watch children while you take some time to meet with friends can relieve loneliness and give you a boost of energy. Working with your partner to coordinate child care can help you feel more supported.
Find time to socialize. Consider joining parenting groups or interacting with other parents through social media to connect with others going through similar challenges. Find family-friendly events you can attend together. Scheduling regular catch-ups with your loved ones, whether in person or virtually, can help maintain these valuable relationships.
Practice mindfulness. Mindfulness is a wonderful way to relieve stress and can help you navigate challenging emotions like loneliness. Journaling, meditation, creating art and spending time in nature are excellent mindfulness practices.